Stopped by Manila on my way back from Jakarta. I was given a message when I checked in at the Solaire Casino Hotel. The message was transmitted to the holder of my Solaire Club number and it said in Chinese - It's a boy.

The message initially brought a smile to my lips, but to my confusion and consternation, I was miserable for the next few days. I could not stop thinking of my son in Poland and wondering if it is already too late to seek out the mother and see whether it would be possible to form a family and raise the child together. Wish me luck!

So the question is, is it better to know or not know?

Reports tend to have a degree of creativity and some writers like to add their own flavour. Sometimes it's difficult to tell if it's sarcasm or legit.

I completely forgot about your earlier story and had to go back.

...so my interest is piqued. Are you being serious?

If so, I'm not sure what to say. Other than, as long as the kid is healthy and doing fine. That's the main thing.

I am fully ok with the Taiwan child. It's the one in Poland that has me fretting; so much so that I have made plans to go to Poland and try to bring both mother and child to London. Never thought this would happen to me.

I had to read back to old post to get what you are referring to. So this is a encounter 12 years ago? Meaning the son is around 15 now?

I'm not sure of your situation in London, or your mongering future outlook. But i guessing the simplest way to bring mother and child would be via marriage? Which has its own issues (since its fair to say....its not love. Rather more guilt or conscious to do the right thing). Marriage shouldnt be formed that way. Since he is at that age...wouldn't it be better to let him finish his studies then bring him over at 18 for uni?

He could stay with you and you can casually reconnect?
Starting a new family will hinder your future mongering...unless you plan on hanging up your boots?

Thank you for your analysis. Having another person look at the issue helps clarify the mind.

I have considered both options you mention and am actually prepared to do either. The mother has not married or hooked up with anyone else so there is considerable guilt at play there. Added to that is that I am fortunate to be financially in good condition - not having to work for the rest of my life and can afford to live anywhere I choose to. And as you mentioned, if need be I can hang up my mongering spurs.

I am headed to Poland for a few days next week to explore what might be possible.

Thanks again,

Something else to consider. You may not want to uproot the kid if he is settled and happy where he is. Also he could be a bit of twat like his dad (just kidding). But you could incentivise him...I.e if he gets good grades..you will fund his degree anywhere he wants to go.

Something else to complicate matters...

For a brit or brit child to qualify as a UK student rate. He/she must study at least 3 years full time in UK before university enrolment.

The difference in tuition fees are between £9k/year for UK student vs £20-30k/year for international student. I know you mention some deep pockets...but money is money.